Greetings and Greenings of the Season to you!
Max and I are going into 2009 with a sense of hope and possibility in spite of (and maybe even because of?) the tremendous challenges we face personally, in our state and nation, and on this planet. We have 2 years’ worth of catching up to do, so here goes…
On the personal level, for the first time since I was 13, I didn’t make or send any holiday cards at the close of 2007 — that was The Year Sarah Crashed. After decades of working overtime to raise and support the family, I suddenly got pulled to a hard stop. It took getting Chronic Fatigue and having my body tell me that it simply would not go anymore, but when you can barely lift your hand to brush the hair out of your face you have no choice but to actually stop. I spent a huge chunk of 2007 literally on the couch and long hours of literally doing nothing — wow, what a unique experience! With an extra healthy diet, supplements, and all the sleep I can handle (I stopped using an alarm clock altogether), I’ve been steadily regaining energy and stamina, but I don’t know if I’ll ever go back to the pace I sustained for so long. And that’s a good thing, really.
Chronic Fatigue forced several changes on me, which are turning out to be blessings. I quit my job at Anderson DDB managing the Creative Services Department. I miss the people, but not the pace. I started crocheting every day — it’s been a perfect healing practice for me as it stills both my body and my mind and feeds me creatively. I started working from home and finally officially started working with Max to sell our own creativity, thus the launch of SMart Loft Studio. Check out our website at www.smartloftstudio.com. This has been a true joy to be working from home doing all creative work — identities, websites, copywriting, weddings, and lots and lots of hats!
While I was down for the count in 2007, Max took great care of me and also of himself. He had a couple of major “deferred maintenance” surgeries, including shoulder surgery, that put him on the couch with me and out of commission for any physical labor for about 6 months. It did not, however, stop him from performing several wedding ceremonies and blooming into the Agent of Love and Joy that has always been his dream. The wedding he got to perform on his birthday on October 12th 2008 was professionally video taped and we are looking forward to seeing it (still in production) and posting it on our website because it was truly his best wedding yet!! We are looking forward to many happy unions as Reverend Max officiates more and more wedding adventures. Fully recovered now, Max has been back at gardening, construction, and tree climbing like the squirrel he really is 
He is also the amazing Idea Factory that drives much of SMart Loft Studio and it is my greatest pleasure to produce his great ideas!
In May 2007, Stinson moved to Philadelphia with some friends. He knew he wouldn’t do it unless he had an excuse like that, so he followed Nora and her then boyfriend, now husband, who’d gotten a great job in the area right out of UC Berkeley. Stinson is braving his second New England winter now — a totally unique and invigorating experience for any Californian — and seems to really enjoy the place. He’s got a girlfriend, Mars, who he met last Christmas (a year ago) and they have a whole group of interesting friends to hang out with. He’s also drawing every day and posting his work on Flickr: check it out at www.flickr.com/photos/stinsonious.
Last summer, West spent a month in the Yucatan visiting lots of Mayan ruins and small villages and towns and camping on the fabulous beaches. It was all the more alive for him from having recently read 1491 — a terrific book about the Americas before Columbus that we highly recommend. On the way home from Mexico, he took a 2-day layover in New York and took the bus down to Philadelphia. He had Stinson’s address, but no phone number and hadn’t given Stinson any notice he might show up. He arrived at around midnight by cab and rang Stinson’s doorbell, to no avail. The cabbie said “what are you going to do?” and West said “I guess I’ll just sleep on the street and see if I can find him tomorrow.” After all, he’d been sleeping in his tent for a month in the Yucatan, and it didn’t seem much different to sleep in his tent in Philadelphia. But the cabbie wouldn’t hear of it and took him to a nearby bar where he knew the owner. He left West at the door saying “you take care of this kid!” to the white-suited, spiffy bar owner. The place was a karaoke bar with all these huge Aretha Franklin type ladies singing up a storm. West struck up a conversation with the only other young people in the place and when they heard he was from California, looking for his brother and didn’t have a place to stay, they bought him a beer and offered him their couch for the night. Then they proceeded to drink the night away and West even took a turn at the mic, much to the amused entertainment of the “church ladies.” The next morning West called Stinson’s temp agency employer and got a total run around — but as soon as he hung up the phone it rang again and there was Stinson saying “hi, uh, you’re looking for me?” West met him at his office, wandered Philly while Stinson worked, and then they got to have a great evening with Mars and her house mates and at their favorite local bars before he took the bus back to NY the next day and caught his plane back home. I must say, it totally delighted me that West engendered such kindness from strangers and that my boys found each other like that. I think they both rock!
In pet news, Marion Queen of Everything, as well as Stinson, turned 21 in September of 2007. When I asked Stinson what he wanted to do for his 21st birthday, he said he just wanted us to take Marion to a bar like we kept promising we’d do if she kept living so long. We flew Stinson out for the celebration and on their birthday I called up the local bar. “My son,” I said “has an unusual request for his 21st birthday — he wants to bring his cat who’s turning 21 with him. Is that OK?” The bartender was so delighted by the idea that she stayed after her shift to meet the celebrity kitty. They gave her a White Russian (with mostly cream) and Marion totally lapped it up. I swear that the next day she was looking at me like “when are we going back to the bar?” Finally in March of 2008, at 21-1/2 years old, she simply stopped eating and drinking and slipped away in her sleep. She was happy and healthy to the end and I hope we all get to be like Marion. The dogs, Maia and Diego (formerly Pongo) are both slowing down a bit in their maturity, but they are thrilled that I’m home all day and also love to travel to the large, fenced yard at the Dome regularly. Roxy, Little Man and Genevieve are all healthy and happy, catting around as usual and entertaining us endlessly.
2008 also brought great changes and recognition for our family. After 34 years, my parents actually moved out of their house in Berkeley and into a spiffy geodesic dome home in El Sobrante. It’s a fabulous, practically luxurious place with 360° decks, a hot tub in it’s own Oak grove, postcard views of Mt. Tamalpias, and the best “hang out” kitchen ever. It took us almost 4 months to complete the move, and we’re still helping them get all the details organized, but it’s been a tremendously satisfying experience. I have had the joy of helping mom display some of her fabulous collection of arts and crafts and the dome home makes a warm and inviting setting. At the end of 2007 I also had the great honor and pleasure of preparing the submittal for a major award for my dad, and in 2008, to our great delight and satisfaction, the AIA California Council awarded Peter H. Dodge, FAIA the 2008 Lifetime Achievement Award for Distinguished Service. The entire family attended the award ceremony in San Diego in November and we all cried. Peter, in his characteristic humble and generous fashion, asked each person at the celebration dinner to stand up and say a few words, and the outpouring of love and admiration from his colleagues, friends and family was truly life affirming. Seemingly modest by comparison, but satisfying nonetheless, I launched a website for Peter — finally! — that you can see at www.peterdodgearchitect.com. The most powerful aspect of both preparing the award submittal and the website was getting to review all of Peter’s many accomplishments. Like many who know him, I wanna be Peter Dodge when I grow up!
Although we’ve been going to Burning Man every year since 2000, in 2007 it seemed I wouldn’t be able to make it because of my limited energy. I certainly couldn’t be a lead organizer for our theme camp as I’d been for several years, but I couldn’t help back-seat driving a bit. And then, at the last minute after Max and the rest of our camp had already departed for the Playa, circumstances conspired to get me a ride and an on-Playa chef (who coincidentally turned out to be an old high school buddy!!) and I arrived the day before the Burn just as a HUGE DOUBLE RAINBOW appeared in the sky! It was, as with my doing-nothing-on-the-couch-all-year experience, totally unique to be at Burning Man but sitting in my beach chair just watching as it unfolded. Even so, I wouldn’t have traded it for anything! In 2008, however, my Playa family, Andy and Franziska, welcomed the birth of their son Julian (my godson!) in May and Andy and I both chose to sit out the year. Max joined West at his Zombie Dream Time Circus camp and had a great year, of course (including a Playa wedding for Max to perform). 2009 will definitely see us all back in Black Rock City, including Peter who will have new mobility after hip replacement surgery this month, and including Julian who will officially become a Burner at the tender age of 1yr-4mos.
2008 saw not only the launch of SMart Loft Studio, but also the launch of a joint venture with partners Susannah and Maya, MyQueerWedding.com. As same-sex marriage became legal in California in June, we launched this website for same-sex brides and grooms to find wedding resources that are supportive of marriage equality. We launched out of the gate with great publicity and a warm reception from the community and got involved in fighting Prop 8. Even though Prop 8 passed, we’re staying involved in the continuing fight to gain marriage equality in California and the nation. Susannah and Maya have moved to Boston to open MyQueerWedding.com in Massachusetts and Connecticut as well and by the time couples can legally marry again in California we’ll have an even greater web presence. We’re very optimistic that, regardless of religious beliefs, our culture will ultimately accept same-sex marriage as legally equal to marriage between a man and a woman, and we believe that we have more to gain than to lose from more stable, loving couples participating in our society.
The circumstances of the past two years have compelled me to look again at my life and assess what is truly most important to me and to let go of the rest. Family, art, nature, community — these remain at the top of my list. I’ve been more active politically to try to contribute to change, been reading a lot of current events books (particularly enjoying Thomas Friedman, among others), and keeping the dialog alive among my acquaintances, friends and family. In 2008 I successfully stopped taking plastic grocery bags at any store, any time, keeping cloth bags in the car and carrying things in my hands, arms, pockets if I forgot. I believe that simple, small things done consistently over time can make a difference. What else can I do to reduce my eco footprint? That is a question that is always on my mind. And on a larger scale, simplistically, perhaps the widespread economic unraveling will help to wake up the greater population — it is being felt right here at home and around the world and the solutions hold the promise of being better for us all. A new (at least to the masses) consciousness of stewardship for our planet and a focus on alternative energy as a “new sustainable economy” could really make things better overall. It’s up to each of us to continue doing our best at whatever we can do to contribute. Our new President (thank goodness!!) appears to have the Right Stuff to make good changes, but we’ll have to stay on him to get through it all. So here at the beginning of 2009, we’re wishing you energy, resolve and forgiveness as we head into this New Year full, we hope, of meaningful Change.
Sarah + Max Lenz